I just had a very vivid dream that I was with my soon to be ex-husband and his new partner (the person he had an affair with when we were married). In the dream, I got on really well with his partner and her three children. I was struck by her kindness and also her no nonsense attitude. I also bought each of the children gifts.
When I woke up, I reflected that she seemed just the sort of person that my soon to be ex-husband would feel safe with. And I realised that often that is all any of us are trying to do. Feel safe. Not look at childhood wounds or harmful behaviours, just feel safe. And whilst we are no longer in each other's lives, I want him to feel safe and loved.
I woke up feeling at peace with a true sense of letting go and moving forwards. Carl Jung describes dreams as our pysche's attempt to communicate important things to us. This dream felt like an important message that it is time to move on #nailingit #bestlive #braveasfuck.
This reminded me of Dan Hughes when he describes how children cannot grow emotionally if they do not feel safe. Apparently it's the biggest thing that blocks our personal growth. Your analysis of your dream sounds spot on...