So today, I challenged myself by entering the arena. By giving my absolute best in an interview. I won't hear if I am successful until next week.
However, I intuitively know that I am not the right person for the job. They need some one with current research skills who can run with a time limited research project very quickly. I have not been actively involved in research for 12 years.
Yet, what matters is that I got in the arena, I made myself vulnerable. I took a shot at a job which was outside my comfort zone. And I have learnt so much through the application and interview process.
I have had the opportunity to reflect on what I have achieved. And to think about what I love about my current job and ways to resolve challenges and conflict.
Psychologist and founder of person-centred therapy, Carl Rogers (1959) believed that humans have one basic motive, that is the tendency to self-actualise - i.e., to fulfill one's potential and achieve the highest level of 'human-beingness' we can. This is a life long process where we are always becoming and always changing.
And one of the characteristics of becoming self-actualised is creativity: creativity and risk-taking are features of a person's life. A person does not need to play safe all the time. This involves the ability to adjust and change and seek new experiences. To enter the arena. #feelthefearanddoitanyway #outofthecomfortzone #braveasfuck.
Gillian-thank you and LOVING your wisdom! This insight is not necessarily something I would have been able to see before! I would tie up a lot of my identify and self worth with the interview process-an outcome which was never going to end well! 🤯😂
Joan-Loving the wisdom of your friend’s mum! We so are all the same! I used to feel EXACTLY the same about interviews! I had hypnotherapy a few years ago after a particularly awful interview! I have pushed myself to do them for practice since then which has helped!!! Still have the potential for shocking vulnerability hangovers! 😂💓
Well done Cath. But perhaps the biggest achievement here is recognising that the job isn’t right for you. It’s good to take yourself out your comfort zone at times but permanently living outwith it isn’t healthy (imho)
Well done, I'd say its incredibly brave to go for an interview, but then I'm someone who is terrified of being in interview situations. I've even known to be physically sick , I mean to say what on earth is that all about. I remember I shared this crippling fear with my friend's mum one time. Her reply was excellent, she told me to remember that the person/people who interview you sit on the toilet pan the same as you and I. I laughed so much at this as this was her way of saying we are all humans with many different fears but ultimately we are all the same. The fact you got so much from preparing, performing and reflecting…