My sister is a carer for my 19 year old niece who has aspergers syndrome. My sister is amazing. She works really hard to make sure my niece is included and has all the opportunities she can in her life. And yet some how I think I have missed just how amazing she is. As a social worker, I supported many carers and saw what a bloody hard job it can be. Maybe I was used to separating work or have minimised the pressure that my sister was under or was n't able to connect both lives. Or I have old stories in my head.
My niece has carer support now and my sister is able to get some more time to herself. This week we went for a long walk together with the dogs. She spoke about how she has adapted to her carer role and she sees it as her job to help my niece to live her best life. She spoke of acceptance. She spoke with great wisdom.
I have just sent my sister a message telling her she is amazing, that she is a fucking warrior and I am sorry that I have not told her enough before. And that I plan to keep telling her in the future. And I also don't plan to give myself a crazy hard time for not seeing this before (something I would definately have done). I plan to show myself the same love, compassion and appreciation that I plan to show my amazing sister #warriorwoman #sharethelove #braveasfuck.
Can only imagine the incredible feelings your sister will have receiving a message like that. For others to notice and comment on our commitment / strength / dedication etc really instills confidence and self belief. Well done you for letting your sister know and not just keeping it to yourself 👌👌